I’ve been thinking about my Uncle Joe lately.

There’s a kind of wisdom that doesn’t come from books alone…
it comes from years. From showing up. From walking with people through real life. From sitting in hospital rooms…
standing at gravesides…
celebrating the good moments…
and quietly carrying the hard ones.

You don’t get that kind of wisdom overnight.

It’s built over time.
Through experience.
Through loss.
Through learning when to speak… and when to just be present.

I’ve seen that kind of wisdom up close in my Uncle Joe. And what stands out to me the most is this:

The people who have lived the most… who have seen the most… who have guided others for decades…
they don’t all become rigid.

Some of them stay open.

They still listen.
They still ask questions.
They still take the time to look at something and say, “Let me think about that.”

That kind of humility is rare.

Because it’s easy, especially after so many years, to believe you’ve already figured things out.
It’s easy to fall into patterns and stay there.

But the ones who continue to grow…
the ones who care more about truth than being right…
the ones who are willing to adjust when they see something clearly…

That’s a different kind of strength.

That’s wisdom.

Not loud.
Not forceful.
Just steady.

And the more I see it, the more I realize—
those are the voices worth listening to. The ones who have lived it…
and are still willing to learn. 

And as I think about my Uncle Joe, I can’t help but think about where so much of that life was lived… the home my mom grew up in, where their stories began, and where so many of us spent precious time.

In a few weeks, it’ll be three years since Mom passed, and now that home will soon be sold… carrying decades of memories with it. It’s a hard thing to let go of, but I’m grateful for the life that was lived there… and for the people, like Uncle Joe, who helped shape it.

I’m grateful for his example and pray I also continue to gain the wisdom of a learner and listener.

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