I sometimes think about changing the name of my blog to the Chronicles of An Anxious Man. I’ve struggled most of my life with varying degrees of anxiety.
It’s normal for us to have a certain amount of anxious feelings. Feelings about paying bills, getting a new job, or meeting new people can all fall in a normal scope of anxiety. When you wake up in the morning, that little bit of anxiety that tells you to get up so you’re not late for work or school, that’s normal anxiety. It’s what pushes us to be on time for life.
But when anxiety becomes excessive, that’s when it moves into being a problem. I’ve been there. I’ve lived there. I’ve been afraid to get out of bed. I’ve been afraid of losing people or things I had no control over. Anxiety that leads to fear can cripple you emotionally and physically. Unchecked, it can have devastating effects on you and everyone around you. It’s not something to be ashamed of either. Some people just seem to have a harder time than others. Sometimes it’s just our chemical makeup that just needs a little tweaking. Perhaps your upbringing left you with areas of uncertainty in your life that have been replaced by fear. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Being your best “you” sometimes requires asking for help. Having someone to talk can help, and it doesn’t have to be someone you know. There are a lot of well-trained individuals available with the knowledge to help. You can always ask your doctor for a referral or start a conversation with friends. You may be surprised who has talked with a professional. Help can also come in many other forms: for some it could be a leader in your church, a trusted individual in your social circle, or maybe all you need is a book filled with the right coping tools. Don’t let anxiety and fear rule your life. Face it head-on, and if necessary don’t do it alone. Find someone who will help guide you to freedom or at least safety. I’ve been fortunate enough to have someone who keeps putting the proper tools in my hands and who isn’t afraid to push me when it is needed.
If you don’t feel like you have someone, there are several good anxiety hotlines available to help. You can Google anxiety hotlines and get several. SAMHSA is a good resource if you just need a local referral.
I am going to continue to write about my struggles with anxiety because they still happen. I want to be a kind of help or understanding for those who also struggle like me, because people need to know they are not alone in those feelings. I found out I am not alone. You are not either.
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